Own your mistakes

 

Nobody is Perfect

As the Christmas holidays roll around it reminds me of the New Year's resolutions which many people start to think about and then share with others. Last year wasn't so great but next year will be better if I follow these new ideas is usually what people say. However, it's been well documented that the majority of people will break those new promises and stick to their old agendas.

People are not perfect, including myself which my spouse can attest to. We will make mistakes on a regular basis. Is this a terrible thing? Well it all depends how you want to look at it. I think that mistakes and the failures that we often go through can teach us valuable lessons. Those lessens can help us recognize where our flaws are and learning to polish them out. This can then interrupt the vicious past cycle.

Cut Ties with your Past

When we do not take ownership with our past mistakes we are making it very clear that these errors will keep happening repeatedly. We then relive the past until it becomes a continuous cycle. This applies in our jobs, friendships and relationships. Focusing on change is the key, and that change requires a choice. 

Human beings are changing all the time. It is the very existence of nature. So why do some people change for the better while others change for the worse? Sometimes we believe we are destined to fail at life. It is very easy to get sucked into the way that society works and just going with the flow of the herd. People eat what's popular, dress like everyone else because it's fashionable, and act like celebrities because its cool.

So how about this; be your own person.

Change requires Patience

Eating healthy for one week will not make you lose weight, saving money for one month won't make you any richer, and practicing a new skill won't make you an instant master at it. The will power to keep moving forward on the new path will give those daily micro wins. One percent better everyday.

Finding the opportunity to test our patience so we can improve our habits will give us those micro wins. Stunning results can happen over time when we put the effort in one day at a time. You are the only person that can hold yourself accountable. Do not look at it from the perspective of it will take me five years to get in good physical shape or achieve that dream career; it is more the journey than the destination. 

Check out this video below from Robin Sharma on Micro Wins

Life is a Teaching Tool

Life is sometimes stacked against us. Some people do have more luck than others so it is difficult to take ownership for our actions and make change. We do need to struggle uphill despite the excess burdens that life throws at us. It is about taking responsibility for that journey. It is easy to create fault by pointing fingers. However, we need to understand that as soon as we blame external circumstances then we play the victim. We are not victims, we control our own destiny.

Using the past as a platform for greater possibility in the future depends greatly on recognizing your mistakes, learning from them and creating a better outcome. Your past is not your prison. Do not let your former self be your story. Let your former self serve you to shape who you want to be.

We grow the most through our difficult experiences. If we just had all joy in our lives without any heartbreak or difficulties then we wouldn't learn anything. By learning what we did wrong we can then craft a brilliant future. Every person or situation that has come into our existence was put there for a reason, to teach us something.

Whenever that challenge arises, embrace it and make that better choice.

Recommended Readings: The Subtle Art of not giving a F**k by Mark Manson

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