Wise Mindset Guy

 There is sometimes this sense of obligation we feel to help others, especially the ones that are close to us like family and friends. However, we have to realize that being a people pleaser can get us into trouble with our internal selves. In my view it is important to set boundaries so we can strip away the guilt we sometimes feel towards pleasing other people and thus create healthier relationships.  Establishing Limits Boundaries are the limits we set with ourselves around what we will or will not tolerate from other people. The trouble is we usually have not clearly defined what those limits are so then that causes others to continually cross those lines. In the end we are the ones who then become emotionally distraught by the lack of action we should be taking to set those boundaries. The snow ball effect starts to take root where we over commit to helping others with their needs. Those commitments turn into a compounding weight on our shoulders because we don't always h...

  Dragging one's feet Why do we procrastinate? Why do we put ourselves through the idea of prolonging to do important tasks or goals in life even in some cases to the last minute. I know I've suffered from this and many who read this can agree they have done the same. We may actually be doing this on purpose just to blame the action at hand instead of ourselves and this refers to self-handicapping.  Self-Handicapping  Have you ever had an important task coming up and right before you decided to do something else causing detriment to that assignment? Perfect example would be you have an exam tomorrow and instead decide it would be more fun to play video games. This concept describes the action of creating an artificial handicap so that the given task is not indicative of one's ability. Basically a person will create a strategy to avoid effort in hopes that any potential failure will not hurt their self-esteem.  In a nutshell, rather than you admitting your lack of abi...